Three Ways for Parents to Face FORO (The Fear Of Running Out): Addressing A Scarcity Mindset
Elena Kilner, Oakcrest Class of 1997
One morning last spring, I was up early trying to place a grocery order in time to get a delivery window sometime in the next two weeks. As I opened my pantry door, my foot struck something. Whatever it was didn’t budge. As I looked down, I realized it was a 50lb bag of flour. Next to it was a 15lb canister of dry milk. A sigh escaped my lips and I put my list down. The symptoms were clear. I had a case of FORO (Fear Of Running Out) and it was time for me to face reality.
Five Tips to Help Your Daughter Become a Stronger Athlete
As a parent, you want your daughter to succeed in whatever sport she plays. However, success is defined by so much more than achievements or wins. It is crucial to help student-athletes develop healthy routines and healthy mindsets that will prevent injury, nourish them, build up their strength, and help them to find joy in their sport.
What makes a woman beautiful? In the workout room of my college dorm, colorful letters plastered on the wall spelled out one answer: “You are beautiful if you are confident.” The phrase was meant to be motivational, but it also begged the question: What happens when I’m not feeling confident?
Meg Meeker's book Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy and Safe (Regnery Publishing, 2019) is a tidy little handbook for how to raise a daughter with character, confidence and resilience who is on a path to heaven—in eleven easy steps!
Beauty plays a crucial role in a young person's education. The types of books, music, and art that a student is exposed to and the kinds of things she is taught to consider lovely and worthy of preservation profoundly form her mind and soul.
Selected remarks by Mary T. Ortiz from a Head of School Coffee
I'd like to share a couple lessons that I thought would be helpful as we've been living in this unique time in our country's history. There are positive lessons that have come from quarantine that are very helpful in our educational work with young women.
My introduction to heirloom flowers came from a visit I made to Thomas Jefferson's home, Monticello, several years ago. It was a beautiful, warm June day and we found ourselves in the garden and took the garden tour.
Every fall my physics students learn how to analyze motion up and down an inclined plane. On the one hand, it seems very basic—almost boring. Doesn't this happen every day all around us? On the other hand, it is one of the most mathematically complex and intimidating problems in introductory physics. And yet, it is beautiful.
How to be the Best Partner in Your Daughter's Education
An important mark of a great school is that it works closely with parents for the good of each student. When parents are in unison with their daughter's school, together they are best able to achieve the common goal of educating young women of character. How can you be the best partner in your daughter's education?
Getting into college requires a lot of hard work and preparation. But the journey doesn't end once you receive your acceptance letter! We want to prepare our students so that they are ready to thrive as soon as they begin their college years.
Mary T. Ortiz, Ph.D. Keynote Address for A Woman's Choice Advocates for Life Dinner
I am honored and grateful to have been invited to address you. Thank you for supporting the generous and needed work that A Woman's Choice does on behalf of mothers and children. We have been introduced in these last months to a distinction between essential and non-essential work; while this may apply to functions and tasks at a particular time, and even this is debatable, it can never apply to human life.
How Young Women Can Build Their Future in High School
For Alexandra DeSanctis (Oakcrest Class of 2012), writing has always been a calling. "When I graduated from Oakcrest and went on to Notre Dame, I already knew that I wanted to use my talents as a writer and my love of history and politics to become a journalist," she says. Today, she's living that dream as a staff writer for National Review,where she covers politics and culture.
7 Questions to Ask When Choosing Your Daughter's School
Mary T. Ortiz, Ph.D.
In this extraordinary time, it is easier to appreciate the deeper meaning of the things we may have been taking for granted. For me, it’s the joyful sound of laughter, singing and conversation that permeates the halls of our school and the smiling faces that greet me each day, especially now that we are back to in-person learning.
Smartphones have become a staple in the lives of today’s teens. Many teens even see their phone as another appendage. Smartphones can be a wonderful tool. Yet, now more than ever, teens need guidance on how to form and prioritize face-to-face relationships. In this day and age, how can schools build an environment that promotes healthy habits surrounding technology use?
Reading offers a lifetime of enrichment. By encouraging your children to spend some of their free summer time reading, you can help them improve their reading skills as well as develop the life-long habit of reading.
Our personal happiness does not depend on the successes we achieve, but rather on the love we receive and the love we give.”1
“Friendship multiplies our joys and offers comfort in our sorrows.”2
I would like to share with you some thoughts on an outlook that the leadership of our school considers an important goal: placing greater emphasis on people before tasks so that everything we do is imbued with possibilities to develop relationships and authentic friendship.
Yoda and Luke Skywalker. Dumbledore and Harry Potter. Socrates and Plato. We’re all familiar with famous mentors and their protégés, both real and fictional. But what does mentoring look like for an everyday teenager?
Kate Hadley, Director of Mentoring and Terri Collins, Director of Parent Support
During the time of the Covid quarantine, most of us are having more time for family dinners together without the delays of driving to and from work and extracurriculars that can reduce the number of people at the table. We have heard many people say that they are grateful for these family dinners and plan to try to carve out time for family dinners post-Covid.
I would like to share a thought with you during this difficult time. It is taken from an essay on “Learning in Wartime” by C.S. Lewis. Although referring to a different type of evil than a pandemic, Lewis speaks to the heart of education during the most trying of times.
Seven Questions You Should Ask When Choosing Your Daughter's School
Mary T. Ortiz, Ph.D., Head of Oakcrest School
In this extraordinary time, it is easier to appreciate the deeper meaning of the things we may have been taking for granted. For me, it’s the joyful sound of laughter, singing and conversation that permeates the halls of our school and the smiling faces that greet me each day.
Living without many of our well-worn routines, it is natural that there have been moments of tension and frustration. In times of sudden change, especially when that change means we are cut off in a significant way from direct personal connection with people, we can tend to “shrink,” to close in on ourselves.